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whats wrong with men its not gay Im
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just nice you know whats up you guys
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welcome back to my channel my name is
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Sam and Im female to male transgender
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for years on testosterone three years
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post-op top surgery and no I did not
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realize that this shirt is the trans
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colors until someone pointed out to mean
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theyre like eyes you do that on purpose
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I said do do what on purpose
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I guess thats that but I dont know so
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today I wanted to talk to you guys about
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my least favorite parts of being a man
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now that I have experience life as a man
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for quite a few years for years to be
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exact you know on testosterone and I
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have also experienced life as a female
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for 19 years prior to that this is a
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very light-hearted version of course
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theres way more intense things to be
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like upset over like being a man or
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whats wrong with being a man or whats
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wrong with men so its been very
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interesting Im gonna share with you
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some of those things that are not my
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favorite lets get into it because the
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first thing is because my ankle is now
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healed and Im wanting to play soccer
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again its like I didnt even think
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about this I would have to play on it
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all mens team and I grew up playing on
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an all-girls team obviously and it was
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like one of my favorite things ever
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because its like the bonding with the
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girls and I just get along
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typically with girls better generally
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speaking they tend to be a little bit
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more like advanced in their emotions and
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communication and thats how I grew up
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so now think you know if going to play
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soccer Im like oh sweet I can go play
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soccer now and then my heart kind of
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sank I was like oh God
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because not only do I not bond with them
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as well but also its super freaking
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aggressive females are badass too and
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theyre aggressive in their own way but
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I remember watching growing up watching
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the guys play and then playing myself
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and we play just as hard but its
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different theres like different energy
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the guys feel like theyre gonna fucking
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like whip out your leg break it and like
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use it to beat you like I dont know
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maybe I just really aggressive people
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for soccer
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I guess the overarching theme of that is
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like I missed the bonding time that you
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have with other girls
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second thing is bathrooms cuz ooh Ive
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covered this in another video but just
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discussing theres like people groaning
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theres
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shit everywhere Im not kidding it
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smells gross I dont know why theres so
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much grunting the bathroom is so gross
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its so weird and Im not a germaphobe
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Im not like you know OCD about that
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shit but its legitimately disgusting
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its exactly what you think it would be
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girls another thing to think about what
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the bathroom is something I do not ever
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think about before experiencing this is
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when you have to use the restroom
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because I have a had bottom surgery I
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have to use a stall now there is usually
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a one stall in the guys bathroom maybe
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two if youre lucky maybe three if
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youre like have outstanding luck and
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when guys are using the stall what are
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they doing theyre shitting meaning
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theyll take forever because I dont
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know what guys do but they literally
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will poop for like 20 minutes so when
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you have to pee really bad you cant
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just like run to urinal this is one of
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my least favorite things that I think is
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also kind of funny because its a weird
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problem to have but when I have to pee
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sometimes I cant or I have to wait 25
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minutes just to pee because theres only
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one stall and it dude is in there like
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blowing it up and besides it being gross
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something you dont think about is like
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oh yeah youre gonna have to wait like
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30 minutes until someone gets out of
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there taking their sweet time pooping
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another thing is experiences with
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waiters and this extends itself to like
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co-workers or like anyone I guess your
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first meeting at social gatherings but
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its like waiters specifically my mom
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and I have noticed if you really pay
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attention now to how people treat the
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guys at your table and then the girls at
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your table when theyre waiting on you
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its so drastically different but in my
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experience when waiters would come up to
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us when I was a female you know theyre
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very polite and theyre like hi what can
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I get you guys oh okay sounds good
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mother was very polite like that and
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then literally now that Im a guy
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theyll turn you man I was like sup bud
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what you need its like so informal like
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they dont give a fuck and theyll just
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say Ive had a couple waiters be like
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all right bud slap me on the back and
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its not like a gentle little thing like
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they do if youre a female
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its like a fucking five-star slap on
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your back and Im like
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thanks bud its basically I dont like
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how little guys pay attention to you
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when youre a guy and I dont mean that
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romantically I mean that literally just
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like if youre going to any type of
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social gathering
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you just really notice I guess what
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girls already know but I wasnt as
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particularly aware of that of this
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happening because I already was kind of
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like a guy when I was a female and a
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tomboy I was just like in my own field
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so but its like any social gathering
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theres like subdued they shake your
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hand and walk off it just feels rude I
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guess a lot of the time and its just
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strange to me because I dont care what
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gender you are Im still like a person
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thats interested in getting to know who
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you are especially at a socially having
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same coworkers had jobs that Ive
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started one now that Im a guy
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throughout the years its like all my
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guy co-workers if Im starting like with
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another girl or something theyll be
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like hi nice to meet you how are you Im
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like subdued and theres like not even
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introduce themselves they wont get to
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know me and Im like what is this weird
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like assuming we just dont give a shit
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about each other and youre a person Im
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a person why are we acting differently
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towards females its so weird its a
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weird concept to me along that same note
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I hate the weird of locker room talk
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its like this weird guy code thing of
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like you know since were dudes we know
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how to talk to each other and Im like
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mm-hmm
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little do you know my friend I am
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transgender so no I dont talk to you
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like that and I dont even think the way
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they think a lot of guys will just come
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up to me and be like oh yeah that chick
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over there to see that big rack and Im
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like no like I dont know how how to
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talk like them I dont know how to think
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like them because I just think its
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gross and unnecessary but its this
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weird assumption that Im the same way
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that I dont like and I Im flattered
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that I guess they assume that because
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they are assuming Im sis which is great
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thats what I want but I dont like what
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comes with that which is like assuming
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Im emotional and like about a
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communication
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and just want to talk about girls in
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their bodies all day its like when I
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see a pretty girl literally what goes
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through my head is I holy crap shes
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beautiful I dont think like you like
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grow that doesnt even enter my mind
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okay one of the last things is being
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seen gay I dont mind people being gay
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obviously I dont give a shit like half
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of my families within the lgbtqia+
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community but being seen as gay when Im
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not gay
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heres the thing that bothers me when
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you are a female and you like other
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females but internally youre a male so
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those females are seeing you as a
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lesbian and if theyre not a lesbian
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theyre not interested in you
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so when you feel like a man thats
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annoying because youre like oh Im not
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a lesbian you know and theyre seeing me
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as that and so I get excited when I
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transition and I am now a man you know
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physically a man with hormones and
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everything and then because of my I
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dont know it I think its just my humor
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and the way I talk and I joke around and
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Im pretty open and outgoing and and I
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dont know why but everyone that meets
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me thinks Im gay and then my close
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friends are always like what people
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think youre gay thats so weird I know
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and back to that being seen as a lesbian
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that Im like sweet Im gonna be seen as
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a male finally you know like the world
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is gonna see me how I feel and itll be
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more matching up with those females that
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I like and then when now that Im a guy
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and with the same trace I had Im not
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gonna change myself but because of that
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now those same girls see me as gay so no
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matter what gender I appear to them I am
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gay and therefore they wouldnt want to
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be with me and Im like damn it Im like
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Im not gay Im just nice so yeah I mean
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thats just like kind of a bummer it
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makes dating life a little bit harder
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when it everyone youre trying to do
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this to miss your intimate and youre
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not so anyway those are like the weird a
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little lighthearted things that Ive
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come up with throughout my experience
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being a man
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last four years and noticing these like
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slight different changes I think its
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pretty hilarious overall Im not like
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that concerned about any of those and of
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course there are much deeper more gnarly
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things to be concerned about as men and
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what men are doing and how men are seen
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and treated and and how they treat other
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people I hope you guys found that
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interesting again I didnt think about
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them until I experienced them so maybe
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we could like heads up if youre trans
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and your transition female to male
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anyways I love you guys
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thanks for watching Ill be back next
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week with another video let me know in
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the comments down below what you guys
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are enjoying or what you want to see in
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the future Im happy to make that and I
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love you guys Ill talk to you later
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adios back
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come here come here show other people
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your cute little face Im this is Patti
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okay Ive missed you so much
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deuces youre so cute so be in the video
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right there okay cool
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